A 22 yr. old male
writes from US:
Hello, I am 22
and consider myself healthy and in shape. I have a problem which I
don’t think is common. Whenever I am about to have sex with somebody
for the first time I can’t get an erection. After about a couple of
hours or 2-3 days of trying to have an erection I have no problem at
all maintaining an erection. The strange thing is that I don’t feel
anxious or nervous whenever I am about to have sex with that person
for the first time. I have been in a relationship and after I get an
erection for that first time I have no problem whatsoever
afterwards. Whenever I am by myself I could have an erection with no
problem. Thank you for your time and for answering this question
which has been haunting me for quite a while. |
Don’t give
a thought to it. Many guys experience this. At your age this
is a kind of starting trouble. Even if you are not anxious,
there are other factors that create a brief mental block
interfering with erection, for ex., newness (new place, new
atmosphere, or new person) or innate urge to impress/please
the partner. You also need to get closer to her emotionally
before your penis listens to you.
An analogy
could probably help. Even if you are an experienced car
driver, the first time you drive another car, you will
awkward for a while. After an hour or two or 1 or 2 stops,
you feel fully at home with this new car. With a car, the
experience is mostly physical. With sex it’s mostly
psychological and emotional. |