Normally u should be
able to retract your foreskin fully into the grove
just behind the head of the penis. When somebody has
only a small opening at the tip of the foreskin such
that it cannot be retracted at all.. and sometimes
causes pain on erection too.. it's called
(pronounced Phymosis). This has two problems:
The first one is of hygiene: The space between the
foreskin and the
glans gathers greasy white substance called
smegma, which should be cleaned with plain water on
a daily basis. But since the skin cannot be pulled
back, cleaning becomes impossible and slowly
bacteria may accumulate there causing infections
with redness, swelling, bad smell, pus etc. Another
associated problem is - if neglected for years on
end it may trigger penis cancer (in those people who
are genetically prone to such a cancer). (Don't be
There are a number of
people (like you?), whose foreskin is lose enough
for daily cleaning but cannot be retracted fully
when the penis is erect. These guys need not worry
about hygiene/health, but may experience mild
discomfort in the first few intercourse episodes..
but the skin eventually stretches or slightly tears
(as with the hymen in women) and then everything
will be fine.
For yet a few people the
foreskin does not give in and causes pain during
intercourse. Seeing a doc. and getting circumcised
is a must then!
Now, in your case, if
the skin cannot be fully retracted even when it is
flaccid (not erect), then you should have an appt.
with your doc. He might give a small incision under
local and there ends the matter. He might also
encourage you for circumcision which
we unhesitatingly endorse. You will not be losing
anything by undergoing the latter. In fact you are
better off health-wise.
To discuss or not
discuss these matters with your prospective bride is
up to you because there are no ethical issues
involved in this, as far as i believe.