Sex during menses

I have a querry from you. Kindly guide in the matter. Can we do sex during menstrual periods?

Can we do sex 7 days a week? Doing sex everyday is normal or abnormal ? Kindly help me.

Yes, you can do sex every day if you and your husband have the desire and energy for it; Make sure that none of you feel coerced or forced into having sex more often than either of you would like.

The same holds for sex during menstruation. Some women are reported to experience sexual desire and enjoy sex during their periods (obviously some don’t!). If the husband is not turned off by the idea, then there should be no problem at all. However, it is always a good idea to watch yourself for a healthy (as opposed to dark, fowl smelling) menstrual flows, and seek prompt medical check-up in case of suspicion. This suggestion holds good even if you don’t indulge in sex during menstruation. 

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Pregnant and confused about the paternity

If I had multiple (3) in a month’s span and became pregnant, could you maybe help me try and figure out who would most likely be the dad? My LMP was 23 May 2001 and my periods are always every 28 days. I had unprotected sex on the 3rd of June and the individual did cum inside me several times on that date. My next 2 partners followed on the 8th and 9th of June, but both individuals pulled out early and masturbated to finish the jobs themselves (so it wasn’t real close or anything). As far as looking into the calendars provided online, they say that I probably ovulated on the 6th of June. I don’t understand how I could have conceived if I didn’t have sex on the 6th of June? Possibly the sperm from my partner on the 3rd lived until the 6th? Or possibly I didn’t ovulate until the 8th or 9th? Please try and give me your what your best guess would be. Thanks!!

If you are sure that the 2nd and 3rd partners have not ejaculated inside, on or near you vagina, you can be certain that the pregnancy has resulted from the spermatozoa of the 1st partner. Your first guess is right - the spermatozoa are capable of living inside a woman’s cervix (neck of the womb) for upto 6-7 days after deposition, and are capable of fertilizing the egg.

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Vaginal odor

My grilfriend and I have slept together for the first time and I noticed she has a very strong vaginal odor. I have never experienced such a strong odor with past girlfriends. How should I / should I aproach her ? with the subject , and what can be done to help with the situation?

Yes, we feel, you should take up this matter with your girl friend in a gentle manner and encourage her to seek medical help. Though women vary in their vaginal odours, strong & offensive odour is often associated with an infection. A simple drug regimen of a few days will clear the problem. Certain food substances such as garlic consumed in substantial quantity are known to make the vaginal odour stronger.

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Period in the presence of pregnancy

Okay on Oct.3 my b-friend and I had unprotected sex. I went to the doctor today (Oct.19) to see if I was pregnat and my test came in negative. Now on Oct.16th we had unprotected sex again one day before my period. Then again on Oct.18th while my period was on. Is it any way possible that I can be pregnant even if my period still came on the next day?

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Semen buildup

If a guy masterbates and holds back ejaculation for 2 hours, will the build up of semen left behind from the first ejaculation, be enough quantity for a 2nd ejaculation of equal proportion? Or, does it all come out in the first ejaculation? My husband masterbated to some porn for two hours and after he ejaculated he masterbated again, 1/2 hour later. Something he never does with me. He claims its the 2 hour build up of semen that caused his unusual arousal, not the material he watched. Is it true then that, after his first ejaculation there would still be enough unreleased semen built up inside to create that arousal?

No. The build up of semen does not cause any arousal. Sexual arousal comes from psychological and physical stimulation of the mind and body and can occur whether or not a man has any semen to ejaculate. In your husband’s case, watching the porn is the most likely cause for his being able to masturbate within half-an-hour of the previous ejaculation.                                                                                                                                                        Top

Spotting in pregnancy

Just a quick question. I've had unprotected sex about ten times in the last two months with my girlfriend. She got her period the other day but my girlfriend said that a woman can still get her period even if she is pregnant, is this true? Please respond, i'd really appreciate it. Thank you.

Some women do find some bleeding around the day their menstruation is due, despite pregnancy. This happens usually during first 1-3 months after conception. However the amount and duration of bleeding is usually much less compared to normal periods. Any element of doubt should be clarified through a reliable pregnancy test.

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Pregnancy from sex in periods

i was wondering is it possible that you can get pregnant on the first day you get your periods? because the first time i had sex with my new boyfriend the condom broke so he went to the bathroom and came back and told me that i had been bleeding...the i realised i had just got my periods....and im very worried... and im 3 days late.. please help me!

You are not likely to become pregnant if you had sex on the first day of menstruation.

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Pulling out is no good

i'm 18 and recently, 5 days before my period is supposed to begin, my fiance and i were having sex. he ejaculated in me, it was his first time. but now i'm scared i could be pregnant, it is now 2 days before my period is suposed to begin, but no sign of it. i've had cramps for about a week, this never happens before my period. i normally don't cramp until i start. we have a very active sex life and don't always use protection, but he normally pulls out. so are my chances of being pregnant really big? should i get tested now or wait a few days and see if i start? thanks!

Since you had unprotected sex 5 days before your periods are due - and since your menstrual cycle is regular and predictable - it is less likely that you become pregnant from this sexual encounter. About a week days before the due date are 'safe'.

Abot the other point you mentioned - "he normally pulls out" - this is not totally safe, because his precoital secretions (pre-cum) may contain a few sperms; secondly, occasionally he may ejaculate even before he could fully withdraw the penis. It's much better if you could use Today vaginal suppositories (tablet-like things), every time you participate in intercourse. You have to insert one tablet deep into your vagina, for every act of coitus.

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Bleeding within condom

A friend of mine called me and was pretty scared. He had just had sex with his girlfriend, and instead of the condom being filled with cum, it was blood red, and looked like blood. I obviously know thats not normal. If u could please email me back with a possible answer, it would greatly be appreciated.

He needs immediate urological investigation to rule out tearing of foreskin, frenulum, or urinary tract trauma and the like. All can be treated without difficulty. Ask him to see a Urologist.                                                                Top

Ejaculating too fast

I want to know if I ejaculate fast in the first session of intercourse, is it a problem? is it normal, or am I doing something wrong?

It is very common for young persons - to ejaculate fast in the first session of intercourse. The second attempt, when possible, takes a little longer and third even more. As your sexual experience increases and with some conscious effort to control, this fast ejaculation (technically known as early orgasm) can be prevented.                                         Top

Permanent removal of pubic hair

My boyfriend wants me to shave my pubic hair completely. how would i go about doing this without getting annoying stubble and irritation?

There are only a limited number of do-it-yourself ways to remove pubic hair for a long time. Nothing is permanent - stubbles grow in a few days. Depilatory creams and/or lotions, when applied to the hairy area dissolve the hair just below the skin surface and remove the hairs. They grow back in 7-10 days. Since the cream/lotion cause skin irritation for a few women, follow the package instruction carefully. Waxing is another technique.

Electrolysis can be used for permanent hair removal but it is costly in time and money and is painful. Seek this service from only qualified personnel.

Laser beam application is now becoming popular and is a painless procedure for permanent removal of unwanted hairs. It needs 2-4 sittings across a span of 2-3 months. Consult at such a facility in your locality.

Since sexual preferences may change during one's (or partner's) life-span, I would like you to think twice about permanent removal of hair.                                                                                                                              Top