A 24-yr. Indian male writes:
i have got married recently but my wife
is very scared of the pain which she might have during intercourse so
we have not been able to achieve penetration
Lot of women
experience this fear and some so intensely so that they do not even
permit touching of the vagina.. some even kick the doctor and nurses
if they attempt at vaginal examination. I do not know how intensely
your wife is scared.
If her fear is
intense, respect her concern as such and consult a sex therapist near
you who is experienced in treating what is called vaginismus, a
psychosexual condition in which the muscles surrounding the entrance
into the vagina are involuntarily shut making insertion impossible.
The sex therapist
understands the concerns of a woman who is scared of sexual
intercourse and, through a series of consultations and graded
do-it-yourself-at-home exercises, will help her understand the anatomy
of the sex organs, the way they function, how her fear blocks the
function, how she could overcome the problem and achieve insertion of
penis into the vagina without pain.
All this, however
needs a bit of patience on the part of both you and support from you.
If you have concerns, problems, questions about sex
Ask the consultant
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