Pre-mature Ejaculation –How to overcome it?
If you’re ejaculating and climaxing sooner than you and your partner would like, sex may not be satisfying for either of you. It’s a problem called premature ejaculation (PE). Though there is no set time that defines what is a 'normal time' of ejaculation, coming within a minute can be safely classified as PE.
People variously describe it as 'I am coming too soon', 'early ejaculation', 'semen/liquid coming out immediately', 'quick ejaculation', 'less stamina', 'jaldi gir padta hai', etc.
Premature ejaculation can cause embarrassment or even frustration, as i) male loses erection and can no longer continue sex, ii) both partners find that they do not have enough time to enjoy sex. iii) PE leaves the female partner aroused and unsatisfied. This may lead to frustration for both,and can potentially hurt the relationship, affect the sexual response cycle of the woman, and negatively impact the male's self-esteem.
PE is very commonly experienced by young men, and will slowly resolve on its own with sexual experience and age. Almost 40% of men have experienced PE at one time or other in their lives. PE is common when the sexual partners are new or when it has been several days since you have last ejaculated.
What causes premature ejaculation?
The exact causes of PE are not yet established. Many factors are attributed to PE, ranging from biological (low serotonin levels) to psychological causes and situational factors.
1. Biological causes: Serotonin is a natural substance made by the nerves. An increase in serotonin levels in the brain help men prolong the time taken to ejaculate and low levels of this substance can lead to PE.
2. Psychological factors:
Generalized Anxiety Disorder
Contrary to the popular belief, masturbation per se does not cause PE. But the way one masturbates might! For ex., if one has been ejaculating rapidly during masturbation, it is likely that the same (rapid ejaculation) will continue in sexual intercourse too. On the contrary, if one has learnt to hold ejaculation and stay longer in masturbation, the same can be adopted in sexual intercourse too.
How is PE treated?
It comes as a relief to know that, this most common male sexual problem has a high success rate with treatment programs.PE need not be life-long and that with some help, it can be overcome.
Overcoming Premature Ejaculation and staying longer in sex is possible in two ways:
1. through medical treatment
2. natural methods.
The first consists of oral medication consisting of safe ayurvedic herbal drugs and/or topical numbing creams for external application. They will help you improve your ejaculatory latency (time it takes to ejaculate). They provide quick relief from the problem thus helping restore the missing pleasure & satisfaction for both partners in sexual life. However, the effect of drugs is not ever-lasting.
That is where the natural methods come into picture.
In the natural methods of ejaculatory control, we help you understand how exactly premature ejaculation (PE) happens, and what actions trigger ejaculation, and then we teach do’s and don'ts and specific techniques to control ejaculation. Some of the popular methods include the stop-start technique, the squeeze technique, the Abhisarika technique, to mention a few. These methods are easy to learn but need sustained effort and practice. Once learnt, they could give a long-term benefit – almost life-long.
The whole program may last from 4-8 weeks, depending on the pace of your learning and mastering the techniques. Guidance will be provided as and when needed within this period to help you gain control.
For couples not in harmonious relationship, counseling and therapy for relationship issues should precede PE treatment. Some men with PE also have erectile dysfunction (ED, erection problem) too. For such men, ED is treated first, followed by PE.
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