Fight stress to win sex!
Stress is a feeling of emotional strain and pressure. It is a type of psychological pain. Small amounts of stress may be desired, beneficial, and even healthy. But moderate to sever stress can affect your health and well-being in many ways.
Stress is one of the most common and strong barriers to sex too. Far too many people suffer from sexual problems caused by stress, anxiety, worry, tension, and exhaustion of stressful life – and yet unaware of it.
If you want to perform well in sex (for that matter, in any activity), then never try too hard. Sex should happen in a cool environment. Never force it upon yourself. Stay relaxed. Keep anxiety out of your body's way, for, any trace of anxiety, tension, fear, worry, distraction etc. can burst the sexual arousal – like a tiny pin prick blowing up a huge balloon.
"When your body is wracked with stress, tension and anxiety, and your mind wracked with worry and distractions, sweet sex is nearly impossible" says Dr. Stefan Bechtel.
Stress affects you physically, physiologically and mentally. During stress, blood vessels supplying blood to the penis don’t dilate fully and the sphincter that serves to stop the blood flowing back into the body fails to constrict adequately, both contributing to poor erections.
Failed erections cause additional stress. And stress causes more erection problem. And a pattern of failure thus gets established. In no time, you are conditioned to get an erectile failure every time you attempt sex. That's how stress operates on your bodily responses.
Stress disrupts the hormones as well. With stress, the testosterone levels fall, as do the levels of FSH which promotes sperm production. To add fuel to the fire, cortisol, the main stress hormone, makes the testes less responsive to a hormone called LH, which tells the testes to produce testosterone.
At an emotional level, stress can lead to anxiety, depression, anger, guilt or a combination of them. Each one of them is a powerful enemy to sex. Together they are an unbeatable combination.
The underlying power behind all these reactions is the mind. Reconditioning the brain is the key element in reversing it.
Here is what you can do
1. Sometimes, simply recognizing that it is the stress that's causing the sexual problems is enough to bring about recovery.
2. Share your anxiety with your partner; Don’t try to hide. Sharing the tension, anxiety and worry will relieve you of the burden and guilt. You will be even more at ease when reassurance is coming from the other side. This paves way for speedy recovery.
3. Remember that very often, even the most complex problems have simple causes and simple solutions. Don’t be too Google-dependent. Google undoubtedly is a powerful search tool but you often do not know which information is right and which is wrong or which explains your situation the best.
4. Don’t hesitate to seek professional help even in small matters. The experience and training of a therapist is what helps you most. Most sexual problems at a younger age do not need elaborate tests. Often simple prescriptions will quickly restore normal sexual function.
5. Exercise regularly. It boosts confidence, improves hormone levels, increases blood circulation, and enhances self-image. A good self-image is equal to good sex.
6. Get enough sleep. Don’t try sex at the end of the day, when you are down with fatigue and exhaustion. Instead, begin your day with sex (Sex early in the morning is a good one).
7. You may take nutritional supplements such as Vitex to boost energy and libido.
8. Bust the stress through, meditation, yoga, progressive relaxation, laughter etc.